Could You Lend A Hand?

16 Oct

I think we are not good at asking for help. Is it women? Men? US’ers or everyone? It is certainly not just me. In a recent conversation with my daughter, she mentioned an App for organizing meals for anyone who needs help. Her aunt and uncle were recently in a car accident, and a friend stepped up to organize meal delivery. MEAL TRAIN is quite popular, especially for moms with new babies. What a fabulous idea!

What struck me right between the eyes is that it never occurred to me to ask for help. My partner is scheduled for major surgery in less than two weeks and I am the chief cook and bottle washer. While I would love someone to step in and organize the whole thing for me, it hadn’t occurred to me until this minute that I could even ask someone to do that!

This week the sunrises were amazing in Bacalar.

I remember when my now 38 year old son was born. Two friends brought food for which I was supremely grateful. We visited for awhile as I sat on the couch nursing my newborn. After some time they made moves to leave, putting on their coats and standing at the front door. Before exiting one woman casually said, “is there anything else you need?” The dishes piled in the sink flashed before my eyes and I took a deep breath. “Could you do the dishes?” They looked at each other, took off their coats and a few minutes later, the kitchen was spotless. It was a tiny kitchen and they had four hands. It meant so much to me, and all I had to do was ask.

Perfect swimming days.

It has been eight years since we left Austin to retire to Mexico, yet I had no trouble listing twenty people who would probably be quite willing to lend a hand. I need to look into the whole thing and see how it works. One thing for certain is that I can use the help and if I don’t ask, I certainly won’t get it.

DOS TORTAS

10 Responses to “Could You Lend A Hand?”

  1. rudeinnewyork October 17, 2021 at 7:48 am #

    Lovely idea, but in Bacalar? I’d love to fly in to wash dishes!!!

    Lol…

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    • afish25 October 17, 2021 at 8:18 am #

      I suppose it could work in Bacalar. When I broke my leg, friends brought food. It was a lovely gesture. You can fly to wash dishes anytime!

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  2. Pat Nash October 17, 2021 at 11:22 am #

    Exactamente. Why are we so afraid of asking for help? Or even accepting when offered?

    Liked by 1 person

    • afish25 October 17, 2021 at 11:27 am #

      Asking requires vulnerability. Accepting requires faith.

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  3. Jack Scott October 18, 2021 at 3:31 am #

    If anything positive has come out of this terrible pandemic, it’s the way neighbours and communities have come together to help the most vulnerable. Let’s hope it lasts!

    Liked by 1 person

  4. Nancy Day October 19, 2021 at 2:56 pm #

    Sending remote Reiki to you both, for Lisa and her surgery and for you and your household, pups and dishes and all. I love you guys, and hope all will go well. Thank you for keeping your post coming. You are brilliant. Love, Nancy

    On Sun, Oct 17, 2021 at 7:23 AM the adventures of dos tortas wrote:

    > afish25 posted: ” I think we are not good at asking for help. Is it women? > Men? US’ers or everyone? It is certainly not just me. In a recent > conversation with my daughter, she mentioned an App for organizing meals > for anyone who needs help. Her aunt and uncle were recentl” >

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    • afish25 October 19, 2021 at 2:57 pm #

      Hope you are well and enjoying cooler weather. We’ll be there soon.

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  5. Emilie October 25, 2021 at 6:16 am #

    I hope by now you have an asked and received. Though we don’t know each other, if I were nearby, I would certainly step in to provide some help for you.

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