Aging And The Big D

10 May

For the most part, we try to avoid the “what ifs?” There’s no point in arguing, stressing or even planning for things that may not ever happen. That is except for the inevitable aging and Big-D.

Monastery from the 1600s Queretaro Mexico

With more of our lives behind us than in front, it pays to have a plan for aging and death. More than likely, being the elder of the two, I will die first, but one never knows.

82, 62, 74

We have Wills, both Mexican and US. All beneficiaries are named. We’ve had THAT conversation with the kids. I’ve set up a central file of passwords and financial accounts.

Adult/Retirement Living Queretaro, Mexico⁰

This week we’ve been looking at what we thought was a possible long term living location. We’re exploring Queretaro, Mexico, known for its temperate climate, adult living facilities and central location.

A park near our hotel.
Lovely colonial archways.
Stunning church.

Unfortunately this beautiful, colonial, sprawling city did not resonated with these jungle girls. Time for Plan B, whatever that is.

DOS TORTAS

10 Responses to “Aging And The Big D”

  1. Karen Hodgens's avatar
    Karen Hodgens May 10, 2026 at 9:34 am #

    To all those who are mothers.

    To all those who are not mothers.

    To all mothers who are grieving their children.

    To all who are grieving their mothers.

    May we all remember that, according to the Buddhist teachings, we have all at some point been mothers to one another.

    May we remember that each of us “mothers,” that we all give and care and take care of one another in so many ways.

    May we honor our Earth Mother, who sustains and takes care of us all.

    May we vow to honor and take care of one another.

    May all beings feel cared for, cherished, held, and loved.

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    • afish25's avatar
      afish25 May 10, 2026 at 10:47 am #

      Thank you Karen. May we all honor and take care of each other.

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  2. EmilySmith's avatar
    EmilySmith May 10, 2026 at 12:08 pm #

    Interesting, a friend of ours from Belize and the Yucatan peninsula (but originally from Pennsylvania) also tried Queretaro for a year but didn’t like it as much as previous spots (Chelem and Merida) either. She’s now back in the US. I think the sprawl was what made it have less of a community feel, since she had to drive everywhere. Sorry it didn’t work for you, but here’s to finding your Plan B!

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  3. afish25's avatar
    afish25 May 10, 2026 at 12:23 pm #

    I think Queretaro like most big cities is divided into neighborhoods. I’m sure some people find their place and their people. We may just hire help as we need it and age in place.

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      EmilySmith May 10, 2026 at 12:28 pm #

      I like that plan. You have such a beautiful home!

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  4. Jack Scott's avatar
    Jack Scott May 11, 2026 at 2:48 am #

    Like you, we’ve been contemplating our next steps as and when the inevitable happens – sad but sensible.

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    • afish25's avatar
      afish25 May 11, 2026 at 7:15 am #

      It’s not easy and there aren’t a lot of good options.

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  5. Emilie's avatar
    Emilie May 12, 2026 at 5:24 am #

    Three and a half months ago, I moved into a senior mobile home community in Tucson. I never saw myself in a senior community until I began realizing its benefits. For a long time I never saw myself in Tucson, again until I began seeing the benefits. And I certainly never saw myself in a mobile home, once again until I saw with the community offered me.
    I considered at senior communities in Mexico, but immigration has become more expensive and more complicated than it once was. In many ways I wish I had relocated to Mexico when I retired 14 years ago.
    Like you, I will probably stay where I am and hire the help I need. I’ve found my last home.

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  6. LJones's avatar
    LJones May 12, 2026 at 12:26 pm #

    Hi Alex,\
    On my way to Amsterdam! Your photos of Queretaro are gorgeous !! Keep me posted – and please give my love to Lisa and Alice – abrazos , Lorrie

    Lorrie Jones
    Simple Serenity
    simpleserenity.comhttp://simpleserenity.com/
    253.312.3117

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