Dear Terry

20 Dec

Sitting on the couch this week with my broken leg propped, I have been thinking of you and remembering our family Christmas traditions.

1999 Our commitment ceremony with Terry and Steven.

Every holiday was defined by the menu and our mutual love of feeding our extended family. Seven layer bean dip was great finger food that we noshed on all Christmas Eve. Tamales with the green sauce that Lisa loves brought the kids to the table and home when they were older. We sat around your table eating, laughing and putting together an Italian feast for Christmas Day. What started out as spinach lasagna morphed into stuffed shells to save time. I can smell your spaghetti sauce bubbling on the stove. Everything was tucked into the refrigerator to be reheated on Christmas Day. It was a simple, elegant meal that we all loved.

2012 Dylan and wife Maria with their son Hunter, Grandpa Frank who turns 93 this month, son Cullen and daughter Felice, cousin Lincoln, Lisa and me, Terry and husband, my former and kid’s dad Steven.

Christmas morning was the best. Showing up at your house early to wrap my hands around a mug of coffee and peruse your beautifully decorated table of Christmas breads and homemade cookies. Nuts and dried fruit and your famous bourbon balls were displayed on festive plates. Thank you for all the hours you spent making them. Unfortunately the only pictures are in my head.

Thanksgiving but close enough.

We spent many years watching our children grow and eventually showing up with their children. I tear up now thinking of how we didn’t know about the twists and turns life would take, preventing us from experiencing that extraordinary time again. Life is like that, but doesn’t keep me from occasionally wishing I could have held on a little longer. I am supremely grateful for those memories and our relationship. You have been a blessing and the sister I never had, only better.

Stela wishes you happiest holidays.


Lisa’s mom Alice joins Luna, Stela, Lisa and me to wish you a peaceful holiday.

7 Responses to “Dear Terry”

  1. Gail Beyrle December 20, 2020 at 3:29 pm #

    Always enjoy your posts. Merry Christmas to y’all and may next year be brighter for all.

    Liked by 1 person

    • afish25 December 20, 2020 at 4:35 pm #

      Thank you. There’s so much to be grateful for, today and every day.


  2. Mary Ellen Heath December 20, 2020 at 7:50 pm #

    Thanks for this lovely post about your family memories, reminding me of the importance of keeping these types of memories in our hearts right now, and to NOT take chances with the surge (ICK) of Covid.

    Liked by 1 person

    • afish25 December 21, 2020 at 6:25 am #

      Happy holidays Ellen. These are different memories for sure. They help us appreciate the good we have.


  3. Jack Scott December 21, 2020 at 4:21 am #

    A ‘ghost of Christmas past’ moment. Good times will return.

    Liked by 1 person

    • afish25 December 21, 2020 at 6:23 am #

      From our home to yours, happy holidays. Hugs to Liam.


  4. Emilie December 25, 2020 at 5:14 am #

    Many memories here, also.
    I’m doing a different kind of Christmas this year. My former partner gave me, a single woman, a 14-pound turkey. What to do?
    I’ve invited people for a “grab-n-go” dinner! Turkey, stuffing, potatoes, gravy, cranberries, and brownies will be on my patio with a stack of sturdy paper plates and a roll of aluminum foil. And napkins. Just grab some food and go.
    Should make for an odd memory, anyway!


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