It’s All About Relationships

11 Jun

Making the decision to move to Mexico required many considerations. One of them was Lisa’s mom, Alice. Lisa left her California home at nineteen and only returned for the occasional family visit. Alice made a few forays to Texas but their relationship was not close. What to do?

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Lisa and Alice. They’re relationship has blossomed.

Alice was feeling increasingly isolated and her capacity for self care seemed to be diminishing. We felt like she would have a more vibrant and varied life with us and decided to invite her to live in Bacalar. After a rocky adjustment, life has settled into a new normal. I decided to ask her a few questions about her decision to move with us. It was a fun chance to connect and get to know her a little better.

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Alice’s 300 sq foot house on our property.

What made you decide to move to Mexico? – First and foremost to be near my daughter. I never really liked Bakersfield and I was ready for a change. My siblings all have their families and I was ready to do something different.

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A secure front door, media room and tiny kitchen.

How has Mexico surprised you? – I had visions of donkeys and huts. People are poor but they work hard. I am always amazed how kind they are. I like that people are not stressed. It’s such a peaceful environment.

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A porch makes the house feel spacious and comfortable.

What do you like here? – I love my house. I also get to see things I’ve never seen before like pyramids, villages, churches and markets. I would like to do more traveling.

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One of the few tubs in Bacalar, a colorful bathroom and cozy bedroom. A design all her own.

What do you miss? – I really miss driving. (we both laughed, as her driving was a problem in CA) I miss going out at night. Sometimes Bacalar is a little too sleepy for me. Truthfully I don’t miss much. I’m really happy here.

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Saving a visitor stuck in the fence and corralled by the dogs.

We talked awhile and agreed that it’s hard to connect with other foreigners here. People live their busy lives in Mexico much like the US. The responsibility is ours to reach out. It’s not easy but very worth it.

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6 Responses to “It’s All About Relationships”

  1. emilys72016 June 11, 2017 at 7:09 pm #

    I think it’s wonderful that Alice was willing to give Bacalar a try. My mother would never, ever do such a thing, which means I have to spend far more time in my home state than I’d prefer, since she needs a lot of help at 82. Consider yourselves very fortunate!

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    • afish25 June 11, 2017 at 7:15 pm #

      We’re happy Alice made the choice she did. It was her choice.

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  2. Caroline June 11, 2017 at 7:24 pm #

    Great story. What a lovely way to spend your later years in life…. and that little house is just adorable!

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    • afish25 June 11, 2017 at 7:40 pm #

      She is stuck w us. We are boring.

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  3. Jack Scott June 12, 2017 at 3:47 am #

    And well done to you two for doing the right thing. Many wouldn’t.

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    • afish25 June 12, 2017 at 6:48 am #

      It’s been a challenge but that’s life, 🤗

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