It’s Not About the Words

23 Feb

I’ve always been a word person. In seventh grade Mr. Oldfield taught us to diagram sentences…verbs, nouns, adjectives, adverbs, pronouns, gerunds. The more complicated the sentence, the more I liked it.

Eighth grade and high school graduation.

When registering for high school classes, the counselor signed me up for a semester of Latin. I had no idea why. I was so lost in that class. I passed the course by copying test answers from the girl next to me. It took me a long time to understand that taking Latin was one of the best things I ever did and that I actually learned a lot. Not only is Latin the basis for English but made learning Spanish that much easier. I don’t think schools offer Latin anymore.

Even though I loved words, I never understood how to write a term paper. Classes at the University of Texas had a strong writing component. The teaching assistant would return my scribbling with suggestions for improvement marked in red. I made corrections and returned the paper as many times as it took to have an acceptably finished product. I was learning.

Graduate school and a job as a grant writer further developed my abilities. The final outcome was a love of writing. I do my best to hone my craft and produce a blog that tells a story. I am a work in progress.

Masters in Education 1996 University of Texas, Austin

So that’s the written word. What about spoken? My poor wife frequently looks at me in confusion. She is more of a statistical, black and white thinker. All my finely crafted communications leave her befuddled and give her a headache. It’s a wonder we’ve made it twenty-five years.

Last night I had a dream. An ethereal woman appeared to me and stated clearly, “it’s not about the words, it’s about the feelings.” The message shone through. People don’t feel loved, understood, and accepted by my well diagrammed sentences. I use words to protect myself and distance myself from people. They also make me feel smart. I guess it’s time for less thinking and more heart, a skill I’m willing to develop.


9 Responses to “It’s Not About the Words”

  1. Emilie November 1, 2020 at 11:46 am #

    Ahh, yes. Definitely time for more heart. And better listening.

    Liked by 1 person

  2. Shirley Broussard November 1, 2020 at 1:20 pm #

    Hey Alex, I LUV reading all your written words and having known you for years, I know you have a lot of heart too! But amen, I too love the written word. Never took Latin but yes, probably a shame it’s not commonly offered in schools. You and Lisa take care💕


    Liked by 1 person

    • afish25 November 1, 2020 at 1:26 pm #

      Glad you finally figured out how to comment on WP. 😂 Glad to know you’re a follower of the blog. Take care.


  3. Becky November 1, 2020 at 7:22 pm #

    Oh, I miss you.

    Liked by 1 person

  4. Jack Scott November 2, 2020 at 4:07 am #

    I did Latin too, as did Liam. It isn’t much taught here these days either which I think is sad.

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    • afish25 November 2, 2020 at 8:11 am #

      Language like science is less valued.


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