Never Ever Pray For Patience

28 Sep

Last night there was a scorpion in our bed. Not sure how it got there, but its beso stung for about ten minutes and then I was back to sleep. Never a dull moment.

One of Mexico's most famous couples, Freda Kalo & Diego Rivera

One of Mexico’s most famous couples, Freda Kalo & Diego Rivera

The process of retiring, moving, and building a house in Mexico is not for the faint-hearted. It is an endless learning opportunity. The lessons we continue to learn are the result of expectations and privilege as persons born and raised in the United States.  Straddling two cultures and two languages is a daily tightrope. Some days it’s endlessly fun and fascinating, other days, not so much.


The daily and sometimes hourly challenge is to remind ourselves NOT to blame our difficulties on Mexico. We chose to come here. I don’t think that reading a dozen e-books on how to build a house in Mexico would have helped. Laws change with each turnover in government and our experience in Bacalar will be very different from the next person’s.

At the same time, we are determined to hang in here and see it through. It is so beautiful. It’s a peaceful happy life, even with the occasional scorpion.



9 Responses to “Never Ever Pray For Patience”

  1. Lisa Thompson September 28, 2014 at 10:13 am #

    Patience has never been a strong suit for me. But I have decided it is better than having a heart attack. So here’s to enjoying the process and right now.


  2. Karen September 28, 2014 at 10:42 am #

    It has been said that living in Mexico teaches you patience. I suppose that is true, for someone that is teach-able. That may not be me. What I have learned is that I can do about anything, and that includes dealing with the unknown challenges. So far!


    • afish25 September 28, 2014 at 12:39 pm #

      Amen Karen. It’s all about the choices we make.


  3. emilievardaman September 28, 2014 at 12:23 pm #

    I don’t know if I would be as patient as you are. I know it’s a struggle, but in the end, it will all be worth it.


    • afish25 September 28, 2014 at 12:40 pm #

      We decided it beats the alternative BEING CRAZY!


  4. Jamie Ray September 28, 2014 at 1:04 pm #

    When you stop comparing it to the U.S. way it starts looking normal and manageable. We had that experience in India, which looked very dirty even compared to New York – and people threw their garbage into the street – but then we saw a cows come and eat the food scraps and it started to look different.


    • afish25 September 28, 2014 at 1:06 pm #

      You are so right Jamie. Our new normal.


  5. Karen Bates September 28, 2014 at 4:50 pm #

    Good attitude to take. . .and we totally empathize since we are in the same boat, just a little further along.

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