The Unexpected We Should Expect

26 Oct

If we do not see someone or talk to them in thirty years can we  still consider them a good friend? Are comments and posts on Facebook enough? Somehow I imagined running into him in a coffee shop and picking up the conversation where we left off. Memories, shared history and familiarity would bring us up to date. Where did the time go?

This week I lost that opportunity. Gareth found out two months ago that he had gallbladder cancer. It’s one of those nasty cancers that by the time you find out, it’s too late. It hit me like a punch in the stomach. I can’t imagine what it did to his wife and son.

I went to Gareth and Wendy’s wedding in 1983. My son was days old when I wrapped us both in a blanket and ventured out. It was April and one of those Texas spring days with the sun out and a blustery wind. It was a beautiful outdoor wedding in the Texas Hill Country

I called a mutual friend this week to make sure she knew of his passing . She reminisced of a road trip they took, camping along the way. “I had such a crush on him.” I think we all did.

A friend wrote on his FB page, “If I was told that as of yesterday there were no more mountains on earth, I think it would feel the way I feel hearing there is no more Gareth. It’s simply impossible. I love that guy. ❤️.” What a lovely sentiment.

His page is filling up with stories, sadness, and shock. He was such a dear person.

My “old” friend Gareth.

One more reason to be grateful for another day on this spinning rock. Farewell and adiós Gareth. To have been so loved is a life well lived. And we did not expect it.

DOS TORTAS

8 Responses to “The Unexpected We Should Expect”

  1. Amy Lifton's avatar
    Amy Lifton October 26, 2025 at 10:20 am #

    Thank you for this beautiful tribute! Godspeed, Gareth!

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    LJones October 26, 2025 at 12:29 pm #

    What a sweet man – thank you for this Alex ..

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  3. Jack Scott's avatar
    Jack Scott October 27, 2025 at 4:16 am #

    Sounds like a wonderful fella, much missed 😦

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  4. Emilie's avatar
    Emilie November 2, 2025 at 11:44 am #

    Sounds like a good man. You’re lucky to have known him, and I’m sorry for your loss.

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