Two weeks ago I exchanged text messages with my sister-in-law and somehow the conversation went off the rails. She was angry, and probably didn’t appreciate me pointing it out to her LOL. I tried calling, thinking a conversation could clear up the misunderstanding. She did not answer and told me to “back off!”
My brother and I talk every weekend. It is an important relationship to me and I thought to him as well. It is now two weeks that he hasn’t taken my calls. This from the person who told me that if there is a problem, “people just need to talk it out.”
I remember as a kid, going with my grandmother to visit her sister. They hadn’t spoken in years, long after either one of them remembered why. When my great aunt answered the door, there was a moment of, “what do YOU want?“ before they fell into each other’s arms with tears and mutual apologies.
I don’t know what happened with my SIL. And I REALLY don’t know why my brother has gone silent. I have been sad and confused. I am far from perfect and if I say something hurtful or stupid, let’s talk it out.
At the same time, I will not let anyone steal my peace. As of today, I am done with the tears. If I have to, I will get on a plane and knock on their door. I don’t know how our relationships got to be so fragile. Maybe by the time this gets posted everything will be worked out. Fingers crossed.
DOS TORTAS
Addendum…I spoke with my brother today. I won’t go into details, but it was apparently a big misunderstanding on my part. While I don’t buy it, I’m willing to drop the subject. Such weird times we live in.
the adventures of dos tortas 
Dear Alex,
I can feel the pain in this and I have ‘been there’ too – and no matter what the actual issue, the experience is hurtful and I am relating and AND applauding you prioritizing inner peace..
We are flying to Cancun Nov 3rd and staying with dear friends until the 7th or 8th – then we’re in our little place for a week, then have to move to the palapa for a week, then back to our ‘cabana’. Moving is not my favorite thing – at all – but will have to make it work. My daughter and husband might join us for a few days….can we bring anything or things down for any of you? Happy to do so…
Sending love to you three – L.
Lorrie Jones
Simple Serenity
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Can’t think of anything off hand. Doesn’t sound like a restful visit.
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I know – not too restful☹ let us know if anything comes up – love to you all xo
Lorrie Jones
Simple Serenity
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Sorry it happened. A good friendship of mine ended when she misunderstood me and refused to talk about it. Eleven years later, she speaks, but won’t be friendly. It is still painful.
I’m glad your situation is resolving.
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Human beings are so odd. I’m not sure it’s resolved, mostly dropped. Relationships are challenging. Lisa and celebrate 31 years tomorrow.
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Happy anniversary!
My sister Jean and her husband Bill celebrated 54 this year. This is my “little” sister! I am continually shocked at my friends, ages, and the number of years they’ve been married. Though I have to say, most of my friends are divorced or are widows.
I sure would like to meet the two of you in person one day, but as I age, the chances of that are getting slimmer and slimmer.
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I understand, seeing the dreams melt away is hard, not saying that meeting us is a dream, 😂. I’ve always wanted to do the Camino de Santiago. Probably not going to happen.
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I’m glad you’ve managed to put it behind you. Family rifts can be so hard – I speak from personal experience. 😦
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Thanks Jack. I’m a truth teller, even when I should probably bite my tongue.
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