L’chaim To Life – To A Dear Friend Adiós

11 May

While laid up this week mending a broken leg, I have little of our usually active life in Bacalar to share. No photos, but lots of sadness. Life can be very, very unpredictable and I’m not talking about a broken leg.

Last December I posted Familia Nueva About two good old gals from Texas that Lisa and I met here in Bacalar. They were retired and living in San Miguel de Allende taking a six-week Yucatan holiday.

Who would have imagined that we would meet another couple with the same age spread (12 years) and history (20 years) together AND a blast to be with. Not only did we hang out and visit the sights and sounds of Bacalar, on our return trip from Texas in January, we visited them in San Miguel and got the royal treatment. We stayed in their newly remodeled home, saw the sights of SMA and made plans, over morning coffee, for future joint travels and visits to each other’s homes. Lisa and I returned to southern Yucatan looking forward to seeing them again.

Last Saturday, we received something we never ever expected, Judy’s Facebook obituary. She had died in her sleep Thursday night of a brain aneurism, as near as anyone can tell. She was 51 years old.

One thing we enjoyed while visiting SMA was Nancy and Judy’s wedding video. They had traveled to California last September to make their relationship legal. Lisa and I will be following their footsteps in July.

Life is precious and we only have today. Nancy and Judy lived life to the fullest. Nancy has wonderful memories to sustain her and good family and friends to remind her she is loved. All that other stuff of life suddenly seems not so important – Love each other and God bless.

By the lake in Bacalar.

By the lake in Bacalar.

Judy's beloved rooftop view.

Judy’s beloved rooftop view.

You will be so missed.

You will be so missed.

14 Responses to “L’chaim To Life – To A Dear Friend Adiós”

  1. Kathe May 11, 2014 at 1:05 pm #

    Hearing about her death made me very sad and reaffirms my commitment to enjoying and being thankful for every day.


  2. Lisa Thompson May 11, 2014 at 2:10 pm #

    Rarely am I touched so quickly and strongly by others. I so enjoyed the time we spent together and Judy’s sense of humor. She made Alex, my mom and I feel so welcomed. I am truly saddened for losing such a special person.


  3. midwife87505 May 11, 2014 at 2:31 pm #

    So sorry for your loss.


    • afish25 May 11, 2014 at 3:17 pm #

      Thanks B. She will be missed by many.


  4. Amy Lifton May 11, 2014 at 3:53 pm #

    So sorry for your loss. Your blog and poem are beautiful! Happy Mother’s Day and get well soon!

    Sent from my iPhone



  5. Teresa May 11, 2014 at 5:35 pm #

    You are all so lucky to have found each other and created this bond of love and friendships. Thank you for sharing it in your beautiful way.


    • afish25 May 11, 2014 at 6:10 pm #

      You are right. These girls are at the top of our gratitude list.


  6. LJones May 12, 2014 at 11:08 am #

    I am so sorry for the loss of your friend and am, once again, reminded of the preciousness of life. May your loving memories sustain you and know you both are in my heart. And Lisa: I hope your healing is coming along and that you are as comfortable as possible. Blessings to you both, L


  7. Melissa Hootselle May 12, 2014 at 4:20 pm #

    I am very sorry to hear about your friend–and about your broken leg. It’s been far too long since we talked. When are you free to Skype? I love you.


    • afish25 May 12, 2014 at 5:47 pm #

      I’ll message you my phone number.


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